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I am always amazed by the truths that Joan Didion is able to put into writing:

I still believed in possibilities then, still had the sense, so peculiar to New York, that something extraordinary would happen any minute, any day, any month.

And:

I could make promises to myself and to other people and there would be all the time in the world to keep them. I could stay up all night and make mistakes, and none of them would count.

And:

That was the year, my twenty-eighth, when I was discovering that not all of the promises would be kept, that some things are in fact irrevocable and that it had counted after all, every evasion and ever procrastination, every word, all of it.

Naval:

Nivi: You said that this fourth kind of luck is more or less a destiny. There’s a quote from that original book that was in Marc’s blog posts from Benjamin Disraeli, who I think was the former prime minister of the UK. The quote to describe this kind of luck was, “we make our fortunes and we call them fate.”

You have to be a little eccentric to be out on the frontier by yourself

There were a couple other interesting things about this kind of luck that were mentioned in the blog post, I think it’ll be good for the listeners to hear about is that, this fourth kind of luck can almost come out of eccentric ways that you do your things and that eccentricity is not necessarily a bad thing in this case. In fact, it’s a good thing.

Naval: Yeah, absolutely. Because the world is a very efficient place, so, everyone has dug through all the obvious places to dig and so to find something that’s new and novel and uncovered, it helps to be operating on a frontier.

Where right there you have to be a little eccentric to be out on the frontier by yourself, and then you have to be willing to dig deeper than other people do, deeper than seems rational just because you’re interested.

Joanna Pocock:

As you approach Albuquerque, just beyond the 100th longitudinal meridian – the dividing line between east and west – the light changes, the horizon retreats, the emerald greens turn minty, and your heart opens a little. At the Texas panhandle, the ground takes on a deep red hue, and by the time you reach New Mexico, the colours have become psychedelic. You’ve arrived in the west.

And

When Beauvoir first arrived in the US, she wrote about seeing “all of America on the horizon. As for me, I no longer exist. There. I understand what I’ve come to find – this plenitude that we rarely feel except in childhood or in early youth, when we’re utterly absorbed by something outside ourselves … in a flash I’m free from the cares of that tedious enterprise I call my life.”

And

When you find yourself gazing at the horizon as the sun rises, each little sage bush with its purple shadow stretching into a seemingly infinite sandy blur, a quiet descends. Everyone feels the power of these landscapes. Maybe that’s what’s unique about road tripping by Greyhound. There are other places we think we’d rather be, but here we are in the moment, trundling along all of us together looking out at the same earth, breathing the same air, all of us knowing deep down that where we are really is where we’d like to be.

Reddit:

9) Don’t ever blame yourself

We tend to blame ourselves and our imperfections for the break up. This person didn’t just reject you, they rejected you after knowing you inside out. That is why it hurts so much. There is nothing fundamentally wrong with you! Yes, you aren’t perfect. You have your flaws. You deserve someone that stays with you regardless of your flaws, not someone who refuses to work on them with you. Sometimes people break up because of the circumstances. It has nothing to do with you. It might just be a bad time and place. All that being said, you deserve someone that makes every excuse to be with you not someone who makes every excuse to NOT be with you. Life is hard and complicated, relationships aren’t ideal all the time. Its easy to stay in a relationship during the good times, but hard to stay in it in the bad times. The bad times are the times that show you if the other person is worth it or not.

10) Don’t idealize your Ex and put them on a pedestal

Drug addicts in withdrawal often highlight only the positives of the drug they were addicted to (Winch, 2018). They conveniently forget how that drug turned their life upside down. People who got dumped do that too. I am not saying your ex turned your life upside down but they weren’t perfect. Write down their flaws and things that annoyed you on a piece of paper. Write down what may have attracted you to them but later made you feel like shit. For example you might have liked the fact they were dominant, but later on it it just felt like they were very controlling. For starters, since they dumped you they are “Quitters”. When you think about her again, focus on her flaws.

Reddit:

In The Course in Miracles it talks about asking God for help to “See a situation differently”. Meaning, if we can’t let something go we ALLOW God to change our mind to ‘right thinking’. So I did that. The course also talks about forgiveness. Even if someone hurt you so bad. You choose forgiveness. My mantra became “I forgive him, and release him to the hands of the Holy Spirit”. Every. Single. Time. I thought about him, I would repeat this over and over.

The morning after I prayed I woke up with SUCH peace. The course in miracles talks about how each and every person is love. And innocent. And it is only projection of our minds that sees anything different. Everything that is not love, is a miscreation of humans based on false scarcity and fear. It simply does not exist. And our highest good we can do in this life is to see people in their true form, which is love.

And:

When we force ourselves to close chapters in our lives with ego, with fear and anger and misery, we create walls in our own hearts. We create resistance to love in our own hearts. We set up little field mines in our own hearts to try to navigate later. Whatever they did, is not worth your pain anymore. Love them, realize your love will never die, put the situation in the hands of the Holy Spirit, and realize it isn’t for you to figure out anymore.

Trust. In. The. Process. This all happened for a reason. There are only Mistakes if you choose to take pain from this experience. We all have lessons to learn. Relationships bring up our pain from the past. You can either heal that pain, or you can continue to shut your heart down.

Neville Goddess:

Day to day life is to be enjoyed, in the now. This is key. You must find a way to do this, regardless of your outer circumstances, even if it is just a moment here and there. The present moment in 3D is all we ever have in 3D. This whole thing is about bringing you back to yourself, and teaching you about creating feelings within. When you realize you can create/feel the love you want with your SP, create the feelings of security you want from money within and when you realize that you are God and can/do create whatever you want – when you realize this fully – you will begin to start to experience joy and feelings of love/happiness in the present moment – without anyone else being involved.

As your creations start to come to pass you’ll have more of the things you want in the present 3D moment. It’s that simple.

3D is for enjoying in the present moment.

4D is for creating things to be enjoyed in 3D and for exploring your personal power to create as God and for healing yourself/your self image and realizing the power you have to experience, RIGHT NOW, internally, that which we think will be brought about by external things.

The beautiful thing is that you end up with twice what you actually originally wanted. Right now (or prior to realizing your creative power) you are lacking what you want in both 3D and 4D.

Once you master this you end up with pleasurable experience happening in BOTH 3D AND 4D.

And you will enjoy the creations in 3D in a way you’d never have been able to, had you received them prior to doing this inner work, because there will be no fear of loss.

Kristin Bienia

I had a similar experience with my spine. I had scoliosis for many years and started at age 23 to actively work on it with relaxation and visualization techniques. This was after Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book landed in my hands as a birthday gift and inspired me to try something entirely new. I would lay in my bed and relax my spine and imagine that it becomes entirely straight. What I would feel the most was my lower back where I sensed a strong “burning” feeling as if there was a lot of energy blocked. Later, when I started to study chakras and the so called Kundalini energy, I realized that what I felt was this particular life energy being locked in my lower chakras. After directing my attention to this location on my spine for a few weeks and mentally sending intentions of a straight spine, I woke up at some point during the night to a completely unusual and surprising sensation in my back.

I was almost catapulted out of my bed so strong was the energy push that rushed up my lower back all the way to my head. It was obvious to me that something major had happened. In the morning I jumped out of bed with a clearly straightened spine and a vibrating lightness. This was only possible because I had set a clear intention, believed in the change and focused my entire attention on visualising the positive result. I was willing to be transformed and open. I was willing to liberate a part of me so that I could become the person I was intended to be, with the straight spine I deserved.

Now, this technique can be applied to any health issue as an additional exercise to traditional medical treatments. Way too many people after getting diagnosed with whatever disease remain scared and frozen by fear, they hear horrifying predictions about their health conditions by doctors and often therefore symptoms strongly increase and worsen after a diagnosis. When someone tells you “with your diagnosis you should be long in a wheelchair by now” or “usually you should only have 4 weeks to live” – what do such statements do to a person emotionally and physically in your opinion? Healing starts when people refuse to buy into narratives of what will happen but focus on a positive, self loving and constructive version of what should ideally happen. Is it a guarantee that you will defy your illness? No, but it gives you a much higher chance of defying it when you believe in your possibility to govern your body with your mind rather than being governed by the outside.

See also: How To Fix Your Posture – Working With Chakras To Heal Your Spine